Love is complicated. It doesn’t come with a manual and honestly, we are all searching for what love is, to us at least. Here are a few things I’ve learned about love, along the way. At the end of the day everything that matters comes down to love, people, and relationships.
People can not give you what they do not have
Whether you want to admit it or not, we all crave connection from other people. Some people are emotionally unavailable, they simply do not have the capacity to love you. You’ll forever want something from them that they don’t have the space to give you.
“No one can love you until you love yourself, and you cannot love anyone else, until you love yourself.”
Self Love is Priority
You have to know who you are and love yourself before you’re able to fully love someone else. How can you teach people how to love, respect, and treat you when you don’t even know? You need to exude love so you can attract love. When people show you they don’t have the capacity to give you the love you need or deserve, you need to accept that. Be courageous enough to [SAVE YOURSELF] walk away or change the way you deal with them. You have to know if and where you fit in their space…and how. Love yourself and others unconditionally.
“If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.”
Let that hurt go
Love sometimes hurts. People are going to hurt you. Its inevitable. Love again anyway. A closed heart shuts down all of possibilities, you block your blessings. Your heart becomes inaccessible. No love out or in and quite frankly, that’s no way to live. You can’t change the way people are or what they did to you, but you can forgive them, and move on with your life. Be open and willing to love again. The capacity to love can not be built in isolation. Don’t forfeit the capacity to love.
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
Love isn’t based on gifts
Valentines day is really a holiday that I personally think is overrated. One day shouldn’t determine the love and appreciation a person has for you. Somewhere along the lines, I think its become a competition. “Who loves who the most” because of the gifts one receives. It’s not about gifts or what someone can do for you, at least, it shouldn’t be. Express and show your love for people everyday, not just when the calendar tells you to…
Thank you for reading,