Everybody is okay. Ask anybody how they’re doing, they’ll say “good”, “I’m alright”, or “I’m okay”. No explanation nor clarification, just leave it at that. People aren’t really saying how they feel because we all abide by this weird obligation to be okay. The truth is, we are not okay. Not all the time, anyway. It is okay, not to be okay sometimes.
Stop asking people how they’re doing when you greet them in passing. I’m borderline offended when someone asks me how I’m doing when they speak and they don’t care. It’s just like, why did you ask that? Who made this a greeting? Stop asking people how they’re doing and you really don’t care to hear.
We haven taken the meaning out of the question and people never tell how they’re doing/feeling because it’s no longer anything other than a greeting.
We know people aren’t genuinely asking how we’re doing so it’s very seldom we actually share. I guess the truth is most people don’t care about how you’re feeling and then there are the other people that are somewhat happy you’re feeling the way you feel. This statement can go either way. If I don’t have the time to listen, I will not ask. It’s to the point that when some one actually answers you, you almost get a bit uncomfortable. You’re not ready for the conversation. It’s easier to say “Okay”, and keep it moving.
Let’s get out of that.
It is okay, not to be okay sometimes. When someone says or does something that you don’t agree with, tell them. Stop letting stuff be “okay”. It’s not. Stop excusing poor behavior. Say how you feel because no one can read your mind and people are only going to do what they can get away with, every time. When someone tells you your behavior isn’t okay, respect that, the same way you’d want them to do when you express.
Respect other people’s feelings. It might mean nothing to you, but it could mean everything to them.” -Roy T. Bennett
Not saying you have to open up to everyone, but sometimes it’s necessary to have an outlet. Of course it’ll be someone you trust. You’ll feel a lot better once you say how you’re really feeling. If you don’t know who you could talk to, go to a therapist. He/she do not know you, plus a confidentiality agreement is involved. You aren’t crazy for talking to someone. Talk to somebody about your feelings!
“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” -Sigmund Freud
Stop lying to yourself and other people saying you’re okay all the time. Nobody is, and that’s okay.
Last thing, stop using “how are you?” as a greeting.