Since we were born, we’ve all been taught, everything. What to believe in, what’s “right”, what’s “wrong”, who to believe in…and the list goes on. You just have to be this person your family wants you to be. You’re taught, go to school, get a job. This is “the right” thing to do. With all of that comes the expectations placed on you. The pressure is on. Sometimes it’s just too much. You find yourself stressed, worrying who will be happy with YOUR LIFE decisions, never feeling like you’re doing enough.
“Worrying is like paying a debt you don’t owe.”
Everything isn’t for everybody. If you’re living in the moment of all of other people’s expectations, you’ll often be disappointed, or you’ll allow yourself to become a disappointment. This causes you to become a person who never really does anything for themselves, you develop a disease.
The Disease to Please
You want to make your parents and family proud. I am not saying it is anything wrong with that. What I am saying is, well, what about what you want? What are the things you’re passionate about? What are the things you do, for you? What are the things that make you happy? What are you good at? I believe those are important questions that must be asked and answered, consistently. I think it’s just human nature to want people around us happy. We spend a lot of time doing so and in the midst forget about one person…you.
“One medicine cannot cure all diseases”
Don’t get caught up in living for other people that you forget to live for yourself. Find out what you’re good at. Figure out what’s for you. Go from there. I just know I don’t want to wake up and wonder what the hell am I doing here, because I listened to everything, everybody else said I should do. There is more than one way to do something. The “American Dream”, was created by someone. It is not the only way to live. That shouldn’t be your goal. Think for yourself and create your own way. It’ll take courage and people might think you’re crazy, but if you’re happy, it’s okay. (Sometimes when people tell me to look right, I look left. I don’t want to be drowned in others thinking, or way of life, as if that’s the only way.) Figure out what your way is. If it doesn’t work like you planned, find another way. In doing so, be careful you aren’t spreading this disease to please, to the people around you. Encourage goals, be honest with everyone around you, be realistic. Support your friends and family in all of the areas that you can.