Make the decision to forgive. This decision may be daunting, but the earlier you choose, the more you can focus your energies on maximizing your future relationships. Forgive him. Forgive her. Cut yourself loose. Let it go. Plant the seed of forgiveness and acceptance. You will never be able to change what is done. You have to accept this fact. Nourish that thought alone and decide to watch yourself grow in forgiveness. You’ll never be anything but bitter until you make this decision. Keep in mind that a root of bitterness will defile you. Forgiveness is never easy, at first, but it is possible and attainable. It takes strength. It takes a big person to do it. You can’t say you forgive somebody then bring “it” up every time you think about it, that’s not how it works. It never means you agree with what she or he did…it just means “I have much more to do than to be bound by you.” Forgiveness is a process, not an event. Choose forgiveness.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. -Ephesians 4:31-32