People will only do what you let them. When is the last time you set some boundaries? Boundaries are an important dynamic in every interpersonal relationship. What are your boundaries? Do you know? How much are you willing to give? How much are you willing to take? What do you accept? How many excuses have you made for someone else’s behavior when they treated you poorly? Again, what do you accept? How do you value yourself? The value you place on yourself, your worth, shows in everything you do… and people can see it! Either they respect you or they’re taking your lack of self-worth and using it for their full advantage! Ultimately, you set the tone. We teach people how to treat us. When you don’t set personal boundaries this puts you in the untenable position of accepting whatever is thrown your way and just settling for what you get in life versus what you want in life.
Personal boundaries are the physical, emotional, and mental limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or violated by others. They allow us to separate who we are, and what we think and feel, from the thoughts and feelings of others.
It’s never too late to renew your mind. Relearn you. Put a reset button on you. Figure out who you are and how you want to be treated. Stop letting people treat you any kind of way then blaming it on the person….it’s you. They’re only doing what you let them do. The nature of the world is that takers never get tired of taking, but if boundaries are set in the beginning and respected, givers will never grow tired of giving. The cycle of give and take can continue with a line drawn in the sand.